I was installing some balcony landing tread today 50 miles from home. My newel posts were promised to be delivered 3 days ago....they weren't there. I promised the contractor I would have the landing tread down so the hardwood floor installer could start tomorrow. One of the sub contractors asked me what I was going to do.....he would be pissed! I just shrugged my shoulders and told him I will just have to install the landing tread and cut in the newel posts later..It will take me longer, but it beats getting all pissed off, spinning tires and going home. I will convert that energy wasted and just chill and deal with it.

That guy says "Man,how in the hell do you stay so mellow? I need a lesson"

So I gave him some psychology 101...that I have learned from many similar encounters.

I simply told him there is so much worse things in life that can happen, that blowing your cool wont help a bit. Just place your present problem down the list of importance, chill and deal with it.

I also added I had a friend who is dying from ALS that used to have such problems. I bet he would trade being slumped over in his wheel chair for such a problem I am having.
I told him it is just keeping problems under control, instead of the problems controlling you.
He thanked me and went into the other room and told his partner....I can't believe his attitude.

Side note....do I still lose my cool? Yes..but it is getting very rare....life is too short....easier to chill.

Amen Stan, that is a good lesson, We too have had many upsets in the last couple of years, nothing that we have done, just having to deal with the situation, and you are right, you cannot let it control you, life is too short.

Stan -

35 ? yrs ago, I was share farming an elderly neighbor's farm, and was telling him I was worried about making tracks in the alfalfa field if I went out and swathed it. (rain, 2 days earlier) He said not to worry, he had just spoken to a son of an old friend who had told him that the old friend was unconscious in the Hospital, and the Dr wanted the son's permission to amputate his Dad's leg to save the old fella's life. (infection)

Wow - a few tracks in a field suddenly wasn't much of an issue !

Many times in the last 3 years I have lost sleep in my gyro journey ! Maybe it was a 'test', - to see how I would react to a challenge ???? Now I am so excited about what Chris and I are pursuing, and am putting my 'trials and tribulations' BEHIND ME !!

Just in the last few days I have been (yet again) involved in PM íng the Prez of that other Forum, and he is 'worried' about my journey, after challenging the Manufc. as I did. I think I told him this morning that I was thankful for his concerns, but I WAS ON THE RIGHT TRACK NOW.

I also asked him how HIS build was progressing. (a Super Sky Cyclye, 5 years in the making)

FICK ME DEAD, I COULDN'T HELP MYSELF !

fj

Murray here this time

You are a good man Stan.... No, you are a GREAT man! The world needs more people like you mate

IMO Stan has mastered one of the most important lessons of life...

Do not let it get to you!

After all... it is not the goal that is important... rather how one walks the journey to the goal that matters.

The only thing Stan lets get to him is squirrels..... and that don't last long

Hey Stan, did you manage to bad a deer??

Madmuz- I did not get a shot at a deer. Could have shot a doe, but did not want to. I didn't lose my cool....but only kicked one dent in my truck! ha

Seriously, that wrestling farmer incident taught me a huge lesson in life about losing your cool. I stewed over that over a year...and I also learned how forgiving can be so beneficial...I was a dumb add....but learned a lot from that.

ABSOLUTELY!!!

While it feels all wrong... forgiveness is NOT about letting the other person off the hook, they do not even know or care.
Forgiveness is about letting myself go forward with clear emotions (no baggage).